Sunday, February 17, 2013
Empowered to Connect- Part 1
I pretty much stirred the pot probably with my comment on FB about the large families. It was NOT a main point during the "teaching". It was mostly a caution. I am not sure why? Because the point is adoption is costly - whether it is one adopted child or 20+. HA! We know that! I think most people who have adopted know that. I am not just talking cost as in money of course, but time, efforts, and consistent love and care that can be different, but not always from a biological child.
I believe the point was- the more children you have that come from hard places.....it doesn't necessarily get easier. Agreed. If you bring home sibling groups- it can be even harder! Agreed. That was really the jest behind the "larger family" comments. I found it slightly irritating because I have nothing against smaller families, and nothing against bigger families. I think it is hard. There are sacrifices. Enough said. That is pretty much it.
In the depths of my heart I believe that those of us who have a larger family- we have already sacrificed. So sacrificing more- comes easily. We don't think of it that way. We see the gains! We see the benefits! We see God working even more! So we don't let people convince us otherwise. So in my opinion- sometimes it is a part of society. As we know the world around us can be a little more than staring down their noses at larger families.
It is written out clearly in the staring, the rolling of eyes, the counting, the "you have your hands full", "I can't handle my 2", "wow glad it is you", "where did you get them all", "are those kids all yours", comments that we get daily. I think I have pretty tough skin, and stock answers for that. I don't let them get to me. I usually am not offended. Somehow though the slight undertone in comments- made me uneasy. Momma bear came on out and I was defensive!
In hearing the rest of the conference- there was soooo much good though that I believe it is like anything else that is not the Bible- you take the things that are great and you say- awesome. You throw the rest in the trash where it belongs. You take the things that will help you parent- GOD'S WAY, and you say- ummm.....whatever to the rest.
It is like those comments and stares. You take the sincere conversation starters and you say- I would love to talk more with you about adoption, large families, GOD, any time. And those that are sarcastic or overwhelmed----- you just smile and give them a stock answer. As far as I know there is no where in scriptures that prohibit a large family, whether by birth or adoption.....so I am not going to dwell on this.
However, I will give you some of the main things I really LOVED about this conference that we will be implementing more. Really the things we have already started using in our home are things that can help each of us to remind ourselves, and our children about the use of connections. Our connection to God, to our spouse, to our children. I have already found myself being more at ease in how I handle things because it is actually more stress free in a lot of ways. So I look forward to sharing a lot more!
Hope you had a great weekend!!!! :)
Empowered To Connect Part 2
Empowered To Connect Part 3
Empowered To Connect Part 4
Empowered To Connect Part 5
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