The questions go on and on, but it is all about learning so you can both grow! That's right it takes both of you to have the start over attitude. However, if one of you starts the ball rolling you would be amazed at the results. I love the Movie Fireproof! Why because it was a challenge and I love a good challenge. I think it has to do with my stubborn streak ;).
The change starts with you making small changes. Praying for your spouse and for you to see healing. Doing something intentional to be kind to the other. Giving them gifts (according to their love languages). Being available to them. Offer them help with what they normally do. Showing affection even if it is a small token to begin with. Doing these things regularly.
TO THE FINISH!!!