Monday, January 14, 2013
Difference between adopting with a lawyer, agency, and consultant
The difference- a lawyer's office is not out to help you in that they do not typically offer counseling to the birth family or to you. There are not as many guarantees because of this. They also don't work with people outside their areas in most cases making it a limited selection for birth mothers and for you to be shown to birth mothers. They don't do the homestudy (The paperwork necessary to start an adoption which includes background checks, in depth interviews on your life and your relations with others and any children presently in your home, and a safety check of your home.)- this has to be done by an agency or licensed individual who is able to do them. They may have very limited services when it comes to helping you further than just doing the paperwork for the adoption.
However, if you are doing an adoption through disruption, or the adoption of a relative, or a little one who happens to have some special needs, then usually a lawyer is fine because the "match" has typically already occurred. So in those cases it is ok to use a lawyer.
**NOTE: Christian Adoption Consultants has been contacted by lawyers and we do have placements through Trusted lawyers! We also do have a couple of lawyers that we work with that have volunteered great services to our clients with a fraction of the normal costs- Praise the Lord!
They usually have a lot more resources to help adoptive families as well. So you can feel like you are more prepared for the process as well. They can do your homestudy, connect you with birth families, and help with the entire process.
We also walk you through the process.
Making a professional profile that will get your family noticed. (We also have families that do their own)
Getting a homestudy done- (what to expect, do you recommend someone in our area, etc.)
Talking with agencies- what questions do I ask? What do I need to know before showing our profile?
How do I talk with birth families?
Are the feelings I am having "normal" for adoptive families?
How do you get through this process?
Where do I look for grants or no interest loans?
What are some websites I can use to raise money for my adoption?
What do I do when I meet the birth family?
How do I handle ongoing communication with the birth family?
Is there a website or books that can help me understand more?
Those and many more questions is why we are HERE!
**Note some of our blog page differences :). We are sooo excited to soon add more features and resources for you to see! And daddy blog....coming soon too! :)
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