Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Adoption Dreams Brought Together- Cameron and Sarah's Story

Sometimes our dreams start out well before God fulfills them. This is one of those stories where before they met God planted the thoughts of adoption in their hearts.  This is Sarah's story....

"Adoption for us is something we always wanted to do. God placed the desire in our hearts separately before we even were married. We knew that we would grow our family through adoption at some point. 


That  point came after many prayers and we officially started our process in January of 2016. We were home study ready in March of 2016. We initially signed on with an agency and after months of waiting and hearing absolutely nothing, we decided that we needed to research other agencies and options.


Someone told us about Christian Adoption Consultants and specifically Dawn and Jason Wright. I contacted Dawn in July of 2016, and after talking with Dawn I knew at once that using Christian Adoption Consultants was the way to continue our adoption journey. We were matched in August of 2016, not even a month after starting to work with CAC. Our baby girl was born in November 2016.




Christian Adoption Consultants were helpful from answering questions, getting us connected with agencies, encouraging us, and praying for us throughout our process. I am grateful for Dawn & Jason and how they have been a part of our adoption journey.

If you have the dream to adopt and want to know more please call or email anytime with your questions. 

We’d love to talk about your own adoption dreams:
Call Dawn at (813) 360-7368 or email to: wrights@christianadoptionconsultants.com











Friday, February 17, 2017

When it gets hard to hear "No"

As a Christian Adoption Consultant we have the privilege of praying and encouraging families during the process of adoption.  I pray this will help encourage someone today.  

In the adoption process when you are finished with the home study, the paperwork for the agencies, and the profile you then come to a really exciting time in the process because you are ready to be "matched".  You finally get to say, "Yes I would like to be present my profile to an expectant family." 

It is time for celebration in the journey and a relief that you are done with so much paperwork!  So you see some situations of an expectant family and as you pray and read through them you know you want to say yes to presenting your profile to an expectant family. 


Somewhere between the paperwork and the busyness of the process it hits you that you may hear a "no" from the expectant family.  They may choose another family.  Then your mind races with thoughts of, "Why would they chose them and not us?", "Why is our family not good enough?", or "Was it because of that picture we put in the profile?"

You may begin to think and feel a small voice saying, "See you aren't good enough.", "You don't have what it takes to adopt", or "You will never be chosen." 


My heart in sharing these thoughts is because they are normal thoughts, and anyone going through the process of adoption have them.  That isn't to down play how it feels because adoption is a roller coaster of emotions.  It is to say you are not alone in feeling this way.

My second reason is because sometimes we don't see the other side of adoption or maybe we don't picture it well.  So I want to make a clearer picture for families who are all waiting.  The expectant families you read about are making one of the toughest decisions of their entire life.  It is not taken lightly and there are literally a million reasons why they have made this decision to place a child and a million reasons why they are going to choose a specific family.

In other words it isn't a mathematical equation.  One expectant family chooses an adoptive family simply because of the smile that draws her eyes to your picture, because you are the biggest sports fans, because you love horses, or because the children in your home look so very loved they can just picture their child with your children.

If there was anything I can say to help you in your time of doubt.  It would be that God always has a plan that can be trusted.  There are many times of doubt and fear, but God tells us in Philippians 4:7 " And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

It's ok to have doubt, but take heart because God can give you peace even when you feel the heartbreak of not being chosen.  He knows your heart in wanting to adopt and shares in that spirit of love and caring.  He has a plan for the expectant family as well as yours to be joined forever by two beautiful hands and feet of a child. 

Monday, January 30, 2017

The Miracle of Michael

 
The first moment I met Michael my heart melted.  The difference between him and my other children is that I knew that he would not “be like our other children”.  Plain and simple fact, but what happened after adopting Michael is the real miracle.

We said “yes” to Michael after being told that most of his brain isn’t functioning.  That he has barely learned to crawl, can sit up (very slouched), he may never be able to eat normal food, he may never learn to walk, he may never know how to communicate, and this is a very short list of the "he may nevers". 

 
That can be more than intimidating.  That can be enough to make you run for the hills.  I mean what will he be able to do? 

This is where the miracle happened.  It didn’t matter! 

It didn’t matter what he couldn’t do at all.  The miracle is in how our hearts changed, believed in him, and in what we cheered him on to do.  It was a huge shift in thinking.  I mean we talked and prepared a lot for Michael to come home.  We talked about expectations with our other children and our families.  We shared the “he may nevers” with them.  We shared our thoughts and feelings about it.


 
When Michael came home none of that seemed to matter.  At first when the kids snuggled and loved Michael I was fully expecting that this would last for a while, but would they love him as he got older?  Would I love him as much as he gets older and isn’t a baby anymore?  Would our feelings change? 

Again, the miracle of Michael took over and changed our hearts to what can we encourage him to do now?  How can we help him to do his best?  Then we watched as he has grown and learned!  We watched in our own hearts how we didn’t shy away from a child that can’t do what other children his age can.  We watched at how our hearts still come back to a place of deep love and care for this young boy who loves in such a huge way.


 
He doesn’t care that he can’t run, but he is lightning fast crawling.  He doesn’t care that he can’t reply with full sentences, but he can tell you in an instant if he wants more, or if he is happy, or if he is upset which are all things he has learned.  He doesn’t care that he may not be able to understand everything you say, but you can bet he understands a lot more than you know.  Proven true by his ability to follow commands and sentences spoken when we didn’t think “he knew”. 


The number of times he has blessed us is immeasurable.  The number of times we have cheered him on thinking we were encouraging him, and yet our hearts were the ones encouraged!   The number of times we have felt down about what we are going through that Michael simply doesn’t seem to care about.  In his mind you are amazing every single day.  When you feel at your lowest Michael seems to remind you of who you really are in Christ.  That is the true miracle of Michael. 

Friday, January 20, 2017

I Don't Need Easy..... I Just Need Possible


When Jason and I meet almost 20 years ago now we had no idea what our lives would look like.  We were young and in love.  That is the way it is meant to be.  There have been some hard things we have faced in our life together.  Huge disappointments, moving, different jobs, different churches, different homes, change of cars, change of philosophies, getting to know ourselves and each other in deeper more meaningful ways. 


Easy has never really been a part of our vocabulary for many years.  After doing ministry together, moving, and 9 adoptions I don't think easy was in what God planned for us.  Don't get me wrong there have been plenty of "easier times" than others.  When you are going through a difficult time in your marriage or job there may be easier days than others.   


In the movie Soul Surfer (The Story of Bethany Hamilton) after she loses her arm to a shark attack she has to relearn how to surf.  It wasn't that she didn't think she could do it, but more a matter of how long will it take me to relearn everything I know about surfing.  Bethany Hamilton went on to win many championships in surfing.  She knew her strength came from God and even in the confusion that kept her going.  


That is us in our family.  We are relearning everything.  From time to time all families have to do this in different ways.  Maybe you find out a child has a learning disability and you have to figure out how can we help them in the best way you can.  Maybe grandma dies and your family now has to learn to live without an important part of your family.  Some people lose a job and when they start the new one there is so much that changes from income, hours worked, and commute times.

This is where we have to determine in our minds even if we don't believe it every day or week or even month.  We have to determine that we don't need easy.... we just need possible.  That statement changes everything. 


Believing that it is possible with God for your marriage to turn around.  It is possible with God to parent a child that is really struggling or even several that are struggling.  It is possible to chase the dreams those God sized dreams He has planted in your heart and so much more!

I was reminded by a good friend that I was setting my goals too low because with God ALL things are possible.  I was thinking I want to rebuild our lives to "our normal".  She reminded me that God doesn't want "our normal" He wants --- something BETTER!  I have underlined and bolded some words- be strong, For I am with you, do not fear..... The glory of this present house will be greater than the glory of the former house, and in this place I will grant peace. 

Haggai 2:1-9New International Version (NIV)

on the twenty-first day of the seventh month, the word of the Lord came through the prophet Haggai: “Speak to Zerubbabel son of Shealtiel, governor of Judah, to Joshua son of Jozadak,[a] the high priest, and to the remnant of the people. Ask them, ‘Who of you is left who saw this house in its former glory? How does it look to you now? Does it not seem to you like nothing? But now be strong, Zerubbabel,’ declares the Lord. ‘Be strong, Joshua son of Jozadak, the high priest. Be strong, all you people of the land,’ declares the Lord, ‘and work. For I am with you,’ declares the Lord Almighty. ‘This is what I covenanted with you when you came out of Egypt. And my Spirit remains among you. Do not fear.’
“This is what the Lord Almighty says: ‘In a little while I will once more shake the heavens and the earth, the sea and the dry land. I will shake all nations, and what is desired by all nations will come, and I will fill this house with glory,’ says the Lord Almighty. ‘The silver is mine and the gold is mine,’ declares the Lord Almighty. 9 ‘The glory of this present house will be greater than the glory of the former house,’ says the Lord Almighty. ‘And in this place I will grant peace,’ declares the Lord Almighty.”

Friday, January 13, 2017

Happy 14th Adoption Day Andrew


January 6th is this handsome man's Adoption Day...... 14 years ago we stood in court and said yes to being his family forever.


 Ha- yes the weights were wrapped in a towel, because paper would have torn from me trying to pick them up to put them on the table!  He also got a watch, clothes, and of course books to read because he goes through books like I go through a meal.  ;)


 Andrew is fun, crazy, very smart, LOVES history, very persistent, wants to be a police officer, is incredibly smart with his money, and likes to organize games or activities. 


We went to Universal and had a fun day out!!!  In our family Adoption Day is the same as a Birthday.  We want to bless our children and have some fun together as a family. 


We love you Andrew James Wright!  We pray daily that God continues to work in your life to make you who He wants you to be.  That God gives you strength to continue to grow in Him and share Him with others.  That you trust Him completely and that you seek Him! 

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Hanging Onto Hope

This past year has been the most difficult our family has ever faced.  Yet when last year started I had an overwhelming sense of peace that healing was going to happen in our family.  The thing is that in order to experience the deepest sense of healing there is usually a crisis of some kind or a series of crisis.

We desperately pray asking God to reveal more of Himself to us, but in the same breath we ask God to make it easy for us.  This is not what He desires because in all reality we have to be so completely dependent on Him that we would never be able to get through the day without Him....or even a minute.  If we had it all figured out chances are we would thank God with a quick prayer and move about our business as usual, but we wouldn't be in complete awe of Him.


This is my engagement and wedding ring.  Nothing terribly special in the amount of money that was spent on them.  It is only amazing because of who gave it to me!  It is only amazing because of the almost 20 years of marriage they have withstood!  It is only amazing because it holds the story of how we saved money and flew back and forth several times over the ocean just to be with each other the year before we were married!  It is only amazing because of the millions of memories Jason and I have shared since he placed that engagement ring on my hand!

So several months back my engagement ring broke.  The original estimate for the repair was about twice what the ring was worth.  Yep, that gives you an idea of the money spent on it now doesn't it?  So I tucked it away thinking one day when we have tons of extra money we can repair it.

I missed the ring, but my love for my husband is definitely not caught up in a ring.  Months passed.... some of the most hard experiences any marriage and family could go through happened... and we breathed in and out and kept marching on sometimes barely, but still moving forward.  We knew there had to be hope even when it didn't seem like there was at the moment.

On New Year's Eve we celebrated as best we could.  Lit up fireworks, had a dance party, watched the last episode of Little House On The Prairie (where they blow up the town), laughed, made a tinfoil doll dress, ate pizza and drank plenty of soda, and chased kids around in a Hulk mask.  After we saw in the New Year and tucked the kids up in bed Jason and I sat on the front porch - on my Christmas gift of log rocking chairs.

He pulled out a card and read it to me.... and then handed me my ring!  You see he thought of everything in our lives that was broken and needed healing.  He knows as well as I do that we can't fix it all.  We can't possible find healing on our own.  We can only hang onto hope.  Hang onto a God that doesn't ever leave us nor forsake us!

Last year I knew healing was coming as God whispered it into my ear.  I just didn't know what we needed healing for.  Oh, I guessed what it was for but I will be the first to say I was really clueless.  Now I see what we need healing for, and all I can say is our family is Hanging Onto Hope! Praise God for HOPE!  It is the only real tangible thing in this world we can have that can not be stolen from us no matter what the world says because our Hope is based on God! 

Monday, January 2, 2017

Surprise!

I am getting back to something that makes me happy!  Blogging!  After stepping away for far too long I realized that I blogged because it made me happy.  I enjoy writing about our family and sharing.  It was a sense of creating that I have missed for far too long.

Shout out to Jason because my computer is having technical difficulties so he stepped in to help give me some solutions.  For those of you who think I have all the computer things figured out- nope.  Jason is who I call if I have problems and beg him to help! 

 So let's see this year we did a lot that I didn't blog about, but maybe that is the point of a New Year's Blog post.  To say I missed out, but it's ok to pick it back up and start again. 
 I got to hold some babies which is a great perk to the job of helping families through the adoption process. 
 Jason's parents were able to come visit! 
 We went to the beach!
 We had lots of crazy fun times together as a family. 
 Don't ask me what this is......because you know...... boys! 
 We snuggled a lot because Michael is pretty irresistible! 
 We loved well!
 Oh- look at my Christmas present!  Rocking chairs for our front porch so I can enjoy our beautiful 3 acres. 
 Date nights with this special man who after almost 20 years has put up with me.  It must be love! 
 Fun times out! 
 Oh and this magical fun from Christmas time.  Jason and I snuck out one evening and made multiple trips to the store for........
 BIKES!  Ummm.....let's just say getting that many bikes into the Suburban took a few trips. 
 It was worth it as our kiddos have spent time every day on their bikes since then! 

 OK say it with me- Joshua has gotten extremely tall!  (He is about 6'2")


 Michael got a bike too it just doesn't have pedals.  It is to help him learn how to walk (balance bike).  I just ordered a bike trailer for him as well so we can all go out on family bike rides as well.  Daddy put it together this afternoon. 
 Joanna and Jonathan learned how to ride a bike for the first time and it didn't take long for either one.  Now they are zipping all around our yard and neighborhood. 

 We have had many trips to Universal this year and have enjoyed all the rides there.  Joanna was so excited to be tall enough to ride The Mummy. 

 So after not blogging for a long time, I am back and starting again.  So if you want to follow along on our crazy Wright Family Adventures feel free to come check us out.  I will still be blogging about adoption, our adoptive family's adoption stories, about our family, and about our faith.  Praying your 2016 was great and that your 2017 will be even greater!








Tuesday, October 11, 2016

An Adoption Dream Come True: Heather & Matt's Story

An Adoption Dream Come True: Heather & Matt's story.
October 11, 2016

We have been blessed working as adoption consultants over the past four years, witnessing more than 60 children coming into their forever families through the amazing miracle we call "Adoption". We'd like to share the story of one family who recently brought home their baby girl. Matt and Heather had signed on with local agencies before hearing about Christian Adoption Consultants and had waited 10 months with only being presented to expectant moms twice.They heard about CAC through several social media posts.They signed on with us and in 6 weeks were matched with their baby, and 6 weeks later was born and in their arms! This is a great example of CAC's "multi agency approach", where our families have a broader range of options for a potential match.

You will love this story as Heather shares in her own words their adoption journey. Heather's story telling is fun, and sprinkled with humorous and real moments that you will totally get if you are on the adoption road:

"Once upon a time, a dream was born in my "mama heart". I wanted my daughter "C" to have a sister. After successfully adopting a boy, girl and another little boy, my heart was set. I was even so obsessed that I made "Girl Only" profile books and full out said in our letter that "C" wanted a sister to play dress up and wear makeup with. And having adopted three kids already, I was hearing a lot of negative vibes from agencies that it was going to take a long time for a fourth. Ugh. We were 37 and had already been on this journey for nine years. It had almost sucked the entire life out of me but we were determined to move forward!

We had waited 10 months with two local agencies and our profile book had been shown twice. TWICE. This is not good. Enter social media. All these posts about Christian Adoption Consultants kept popping up on my Instagram and we knew friends that had used them…whatever, I thought, I’ll just call them and see how much it is. Well after about 15 minutes on the phone with Dawn, I was in. Check written, done. We were IN. We signed on with about six of CAC's recommended agencies and I worked like a crazy woman to get all the I’s dotted and T’s crossed. Because mama doesn’t play around! 

Okay, I was positive that no one, repeat NO ONE, was going to want us. I mean, who wants to choose a family with three other kids? Dawn kept telling me that she works with larger families all the time and I made her tell me the stats. I wanted all the information. Spill your beans woman. How many kids? How many placements? How many this year? I am sure she thought I was totally clinical. 

We had presented to three or four situations within four weeks (which by the way should encourage anyone who is out there waiting thinking they will get shown once a year…heck. no.) and kept hearing "No". Ugh. This is when you are clearly going to lose your mind. I mean, adoption is so HARD. The wait. The black hole of nothingness. The staring at the phone convinced it isn’t working. It just isn’t working, call Apple immediately and set up appointment to get it fixed! Well low and behold, we decided to present to one totally crazy situation in Florida (crazy because we live in Ohio, it had a hundred moving parts, I had to whip up a gender neutral book, it involved foster care and another child, and several potential birth fathers, and oh my gosh this is messy no way would it ever work out…) and BAM, It happened!

We got the call that we had been selected (of course it was a gender unknown and why in the world did we present because, duh, we wanted a girl so what is going on here?…) and I almost died. No, I did die. I fell over and started yelling my face off into the phone. That poor woman. Probably just put the phone down and let me hoot and holler. That was a Thursday, just six weeks after I had written our check and spoken to Dawn!

Fast forward to Monday. The expectant mom wants to talk to us. Oh my word I am dying. She knew the gender at this point and wanted to tell us herself. Just get out the boy clothes because of course it’s a boy and it will be fine and I love boys and I already have a girl so it’s totally cool. I swear to goodness, Monday was my birthday and I received the greatest gift EVER. She was having a little girl. And she was due in 6 weeks. I think I screamed for my daughter to get down here immediately because she was going to have a sister. No idea. I may have said nothing, I am not sure. I think I blacked out. 

We flew down to meet our precious birth mom two weeks later and made plans for baby girl’s arrival. Then came July. I will never forget the call I got when our expectant mom was in labor. I booked a plane trip leaving in four hours and Matt packed the van and our three children and got on the interstate within two hours.  I made it about an hour after "A" was born and walked into the hospital room in a total daze. It was 1:00am and I was wide eyed, nervous, sweaty, and in shock. Our birth mom told her mom to "Hand Heather her baby” and I just sobbed. SOBBED. I sobbed because I was in awe. I sobbed because our birth mom was so amazing. I sobbed because she was here. I sobbed because the nine year journey to build our family was over. We made it. Thank you Jesus!



Without Dawn at Christian Adoption Consultants, without our agency in Florida, without all the prayers and all the hope and all the waiting…it never would have happened. But it did. And "A" is here. She is ours…and my Sweet "C" finally has her baby sister!"

Heather's story raises some valid questions: Are you a "Big Family"? Have you been waiting with an agency for too long without being presented? Do you wonder if adoption will ever happen? We would love to talk with you today about Christian Adoption Consultants' services and the many stories, like Matt & Heather's where children have come home in a matter of months, not years. And services where we are on YOUR team, helping, guiding and supporting you through your entire adoption journey.


Please call or email anytime:
Dawn: (813) 360-7368
wrights@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Monday, June 20, 2016

God's Unexpected Adoption Plan: Seth & Casey's Story


Seth and Casey are an amazing couple. It has been a pleasure as their adoption consultants with Christian Adoption Consultants to walk alongside them in their adoption journey to their precious baby boy. Their adoption journey wasn’t quite what they expected, but God has a funny way of turning things upside down! Casey shares their family’s story:

“Adoption has been our hearts and minds since May of 2010. Seth was in college, we just had our 3rd biological child, and it just wasn’t the right time in that particular season of life. When we decided to pursue adoption in November 2014, we had also just put into action God’s calling to move onto the opposite side of the state, in August.

Our adoption journey was a roller coaster ride! My dad’s favorite quote is “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans. I like to have a plan, to be in control, to have a timeline. Obviously patience is NOT a virtue that comes easy to me! Adoption causes all of those feelings to be completely out of whack!


When we started the process we wanted a baby girl. That’s what we wanted and NOTHING was going to change that. When the first case for a boy came along I felt God’s nudging to present our profile, but I didn’t want to…….I was digging my heels in. I knew what I wanted and I acted like a child. I prayed for a long time that day and I shed a few tears over what I thought was giving up on my dream. We presented to the expectant mom, we weren’t chosen, and to my shock, I was disappointed?!?! (Where did those feelings come from???)

We presented our profile 18 times to expectant moms, of those 18, 8 were expecting boys.

God used our adoption journey to not only bring our son home to us, but to stretch and grow Seth and me more than we imagined. We learned to rely on Jesus, to rely on the one who has the whole world in His hands. Our marriage and our family has come through adoption closer than ever. I understood what God wanted from me. He wanted my “Yes”, He wanted for me to give my worries over to Him, He wanted my full trust, to believe He ONLY wants good things for His children. And yeah, maybe the child he brought into our lives wouldn’t be what I expected, but they were going to be CHOSEN BY GOD to be in our family! Isn’t that the most reassuring statement?? I wasn’t in control, I couldn’t change the outcome, and my child was going to be hand selected by a KING!



When I first saw Momma K’s case she didn’t know if she was having a boy or girl, she was overdue, and had no prenatal care. But I couldn’t deny the feeling of God calling us to step out, trust Him, and present to this potential birth mom. We waited for 4 days and then got a call from Emilie at the agency saying Momma K was in labor and she had chosen us! We waited, what felt like days, but was only 6 hours, and got a phone call that said “You have a son.”



I can’t describe the feelings of joy, relief, and excitement in that phone call. She sent a picture shortly after that and the tears wouldn’t stop flowing. We waited exactly 9 months to the day for K to be born into our lives. Everything with K’s adoption happened so fast, it was 40 hours from the time we were chosen to when we took our baby to the hotel. It felt so surreal after the years of waiting for him.



He is the best baby and is a perfect fit into our family. Everyone who meets him falls in love with him. God knew what He was doing all along. He knew who my heart needed before I did. And in the end isn’t that what we all want? A Father who hears us, sees us, who really knows us.”


Many thanks to Casey for sharing her amazing story of God’s plan for her family’s lives. He definitely is in the business of changing our hearts and ever drawing us closer to His best for our lives.

We’d love to talk about your own adoption journey any time.
Call Dawn at (813) 360-7368 or email to: wrights@christianadoptionconsultants.com

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