PURE IN HEART CONFERENCE.
2 Corinthians 11:3 But I am afraid that just as Eve was deceived by the serpent’s cunning, your minds may somehow be led astray from your sincere and pure devotion to Christ.
Do you ever fear that you have been led astray.....worse yet that your children have been led astray? YES!!! A million times.....YES!!!! Aha. It is as I have feared. Me TOO!
John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
How in the world are we supposed to combat that? How do we stand a chance? Aren't their peers just going to do what they want anyway? They don't even listen to me anyway.... LIES LIES LIES LIES LIES!!! Refer back to John 10:10! Our church has a saying- whoever wants the next generation the most- WILL HAVE THEM! Repeat this about a million times.....then read on.
Sometimes we just correct an action, but really as parents we have to get to the root of the problem. If a child says something mean or hateful- why did they say it. We should not be shocked that someone said something, but more shocked that we aren't really taking care of the real problem. Me included!
One of the greatest things you can do for your children is to give them a sense of WHO THEY ARE IN CHRIST! If they are secure in that. If they know without a doubt because we tell them a gazillion times a day that they are sons and daughters of the Most High then they will have no reason to doubt that. Give them a vision of their beauty- not how they look people- Who they are in Christ. They are worth more than diamonds! They are worth your time, efforts, your life! That is who they are to Christ- worth more than anything because God gave His Only Son for them!
Now I have to admit when I think of purity my mind races to physical relationships, but that is not all God has in mind. He wants our WHOLE HEARTS! That means our time, our money, our mouths and what comes out of them, all the avenues we choose to fill our minds- ALL OF IT! This is a vision for a lifelong love story with our Savior not just a "save yourself for your husband/wife" talk. There is a huge difference!
1) Cultivate a safe place of communication. Do your children know they can come talk to you about anything? Oh here was a moment for me. They said when your child comes up to you with something you may be uneasy about - do you instantly respond- where did you hear that? Because....ummmm....that closes down the conversation. yikes- convicted!
2) Listen to them. God gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth. We have to use our ears twice as much as our mouth. Many times your kids and mine know the right answers, but they need to "talk it out". We need to let them. Give them a chance to say why they think a certain way- don't just tell them how to think. That doesn't work. They need your reassurance not guilt trip. UNINTERRUPTED!
4) Cultivate courageous convictions to battle the world with. If you believe in creation and not evolution chances are you have taught your children the whys of creation. Chances are you know them and maybe have even spent a lot of time studying them yourself. Same with other convictions- pass them on to your children. They need answers of why you believe in this or that so strongly. It is not good enough to hope they "catch" it.
Isaiah 38:17Surely it was for my benefit that I suffered such anguish. In your love you kept me from the pit of destruction;you have put all my sins behind your back.
Romans 2:4 Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance?
Why do we have this problem? Because children do not know what they are worth! Yes there are some taken captive against their will. There are children across our world including our backyard that are sold. But most children are simply taken....easily. Did you know the easiest way to take a child is to tell them they are beautiful and you "like them"? Seriously I wish I was making this up! Some children have a boyfriend/girlfriend complex- needing that to belong. Some are just so down on themselves they can't see anything good about their lives. They are promised love, understanding, and fun. What they get is the opposite.
Date your kiddos. Yep, spend time- go on a walk, go to the park, get alone with them over ice cream, share your heart for them, for your family, for God. LISTEN! Oh and this is big.....are you ready?
DO NOT HURRY!!!!!!!!!
What we say becomes our children's inner voice. If we are nagging, belittling, always in a hurry, mean, grumpy- yep that is what plays in their heads over and over!
I know I am not good enough. I fail. I am harsh at times. I am not patient enough. I get in a big hurry for no reason. I say things that are not nice. I yell.