Sunday, January 24, 2010

HEARTBROKEN

Our hearts have truly broken today. We finally heard from USCIS, and they have denied our application. We just don't understand this heartless decision. We are now not going to be able to bring Naomi home.

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  1. Oh Dawn and Jason I'm so heartbroken along with you! What a truly heartless decision, I am so sorry.

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  2. My heart is breaking for you. I cannot even believe this is the decision they made. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you are feeling. I'm so very sorry.

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  3. I am so sorry. I know words won't help but please know that I am praying for your family.

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  4. Oh, Dawn and Jason. Oh my goodness. I don't understand how something like this can happen. It defies all logic, not to mention humanity. I am so sad for you today, and will pray for peace as you grieve.

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  5. Dawn and Jason....we are so, so sorry. I know there is nothing we can say that will make you feel the slightest bit better, so we won't try. Just know that we are praying for you so much and crying with you.

    Don and Sarah

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  6. It was so good to talk to you today. I'm here for you ... any time you want to chat.

    We are praying for you!

    BIG HUGS ... for the Big D. Family!

    We LOVE you all!!!

    Laurel and the gang :)

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  7. :o( Oh I am so so so sorry!!! Wish I could hug you all. I know you are devastated! I know it just doesn't feel like it now, but God has a plan for you, and for Naomi. Keep trusting in Him. He will show you. Praying for you. Sending huge cyber hugs!

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  8. Weeping with you as you weep! My heart dropped into my shoe as I read your note. God gives us the ability to grieve as a gift...let us cry buckets, but also let us avoid the temptation of self-pity or a kind of anger that does not produce the righteousness of God or bitterness that destroys like a cancer. We can cry and not understand, while looking to the morning when joy will come again because God is our Father who is wise, and good and loves us...and He is sovereign over all things (even things like this, and Joseph's brothers selling him into slavery, and everything else from "toothpicks to tyrants" as Dr. Piper said in a book I'm reading this week). His purposes are not thwarted by USCIS. His arm was not too short to turn the heart of the kings in this situation. Cry and trust at the same time, my friend; weep with hope because you are a child of the King of all kings, and one day we will stand before our Savior who will make all things clear and wipe every tear away. I will continue to pray for Naomi, knowing without a doubt that our Father is also hers and He will care for her and use your love for her to glorify His name. And I will continue to pray for you and your family, weeping alongside of you, and thanking God for our growing friendship.

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  9. Oh, I'm so sorry. I pray some how they were wrong and fix this. God be with you.

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  10. Oh, Dawn. I can't put into words how sorry I am. I don't understand this at all. Praying for you. Praying for sweet Naomi.

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  11. Wow. That just sucks. I'm so sorry and my heart goes out to you and all the kids. They must be so confused and devasted about such a ridiculous decision. You need to mourn for a while and hopefully begin healing soon. God bless.

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  12. My heart is weeping--"weep with those who weep." Trusting that this storm will draw you closer to the Lord. Cling to Him. He cares. Love from Uganda.

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  13. I'm praying, praying, praying. I'm so sorry. May God bring comfort to you.

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  14. I am so sorry! I will pray for you and your family that you may find the strength you need in this time of sorrow. I know you are hurting, but lean on Him and he will hold you up!

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  15. Does US*is tell you why they refuse? We are waiting on approval...and quite frankly...your situation worries me.
    I'm praying you find peace and grow to understand what God has in mind here.

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  16. You are all in our prayers and wrapped in hugs from afar. We are so sorry for your loss. We know it is as real as if she had already been in your arms. May God flood you all with His peace.

    What an honor it is to know that perhaps because of your prayers (together with ours as your friends in Christ) sweet Naomi has been healed!

    Praise Jesus! (I can still hear Dawn saying those sweet words when we were together in Ethiopia!)

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  17. I am just so sad to hear this. I am so sorry. I am having a hard time fighting the tears for you. I am just so sorry.

    cris

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  18. Weeping for you and praying!!

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  19. I am so sorry. This is the second time I am hearing this. Can you share why they denied you? The other family was told their home is not big enough. What has the size of your home got to do with the love you have in your heart?

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  20. Just a thought- for what its worth. Have you spoken with your Immigrations officer to ask the reason? Or their boss? Our immigrations officer has gone out of her way to make sure with each step that my questions were answered... and then some. Our paperwork was denied as well. Because our adoption agency sent the application without proper documentation. It sounds horrible for me to say it, bu our immigrations officer was even more helpful than our adoption agency director was in that situation. Therefore I had a peace knowing it had to be denied but it was all technical. Once our paperwork is complete it will be a simple process to resubmit and move forward. If she hadnt told me herself getting the form in the mail with all the technical harsh wording wouldve shaken me to the core. We still wait on Ecuador for our agency's accreditation and then our assignment. I will be praying for your situation. From someone who understands more than I would like to...... but Im honored to know that We are here alongside you and possibly able to offer words of comfort. Do not loose heart in well doing dear friend! Just because its denied doesnt mean you cannot find out why and correct it. there is a process to resubmit the application as they want it to get it approved. You may end up like our family- having to pay the $650 fee again. (our adoption agency sees it was her error and has said that she will be paying the fees.) Do not grow weary. We have to fight for our orphans I am afraid.

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  21. I really have no words. I can't even imagine that pain you all are feeling. I am so so sorry and please know my prayers are with your family.

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  22. Just thought of something... Have you tried contacting your congressman for help? When we had a problem with USCIS ours took over and we were able to get an answer to our problem very quickly. Maybe there is something his office can do for you.

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  23. I am so sorry to hear your news and I wish that I was just around the corner so that I could come over and give you the biggest hug...Our hopeful adoption from the foster care system ended last week when we came in second in the committee hearing and had to hear the words that we would not be the forever family for two children we have grown to love. In the end, our family size was the breaking point for this committee decision. They felt that we had too many kids:( Tough words to hear...I am praying for you and your sweet Naomi. If I were you, I would take the advice of Anna...Don't stop fighting for her!!!! Praying:)

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  24. I am so sorry. I hope that something works out and you will able to bring her home.

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  25. tears are flowing for your family. we are praying for peace, and wisdom so that you can hear the Lord's will for your next steps. i pray he leads you to appeal their decision and this first denial is overturned and satan's attempts to tear down are squashed!!

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  26. I am so sad to read this. Heartbroken for you. Hug.

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  27. Sending hugs your way. I am heartbroken for you.

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  28. there are no words. i am so sorry. i am praying for you all.

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  29. I am so sorry. I will be praying that this issue is resolved and somehow you can bring her home.

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  30. i'm just so sorry..please know I'm praying and thinking of all of you!! kj

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  31. God give you strength as you mourn this loss; I can't even imagine. Praying for you and your hearts and sweet Naomi.

    Carrie
    www.hiswillandgrace.blogspot.com

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  32. Jason and Dawn,
    I just recently started reading your blogs. Saw your blogspot from a blogger in NC near me. I read about your denial. I just want to let you know that my cousin was denied with their daughter's adoption from China and they appealed it and just heard today that they have been approved.....Much prayer for this adoption and it is my pray that if there is any way(and God provides ways that are totally heavenly directed and not humanly directed) for your family to appeal the denial, I will stand with you in prayer for Naomi.
    Thanks for inviting people to your site!!
    Lovingly,
    Sandy in NC

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  33. Dawn and Jason,

    I thought about sending this as a private email, but then I thought someone else reading your blog might benefit from the idea or have something to add to it...

    Would your camp be willing to adjust its accounting so that the expenses of your home and utilities are technically declared as income? I'm not sure I'm saying that clearly...basically, the pastor at our church and his family live in the parsonage our church owns. They receive a housing allowance as part of his salary (although they do not have to pay income tax on this amount). This allowance is used to pay for the expenses of the operation of their home (the parsonage), but it is still considering part of their income.

    Perhaps AGCI would be willing to give you a set period of time (2 weeks?) if you have a viable option to appeal USCIS's decision before you have to give up your referral.

    Continuing to think of you and lift you up in prayer!

    (email my personal email account if you want to know more or get connected with our pastor: hyoreo@gmail.com)

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  34. I thought I'd comment and remind you of how many families you are still touching but all the above comments speak for themselves!

    there is a plan - even if not ours - we just need to stay strong and focus on the positive. I know at times like this, it's much easier to say than do.

    I will pray for you and your sweet family. :)

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  35. I am so sorry. I will keep praying for a miracle.

    I know this is very painful, but I believe God's hand is on your family. He has a beautiful plan for you all.

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  36. I am so sorry. I have just been recently following your blog, but I wanted to let you know that you have yet another prayer warrior in your corner. God is your defender and He NEVER fails!

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