No words can really express what we are going through today. We received an email from USCIS this morning saying that our petition to bring Naomi home has been denied. Our agency (AGCI) has already had to cancel the court hearing in Ethiopia on Friday (Jan 1st) because we did not yet have approval, which we understand. We can appeal the denial, but it can take 6 months, and we still do not have a guarantee. We know that it may be in the best interest of our child for AGCI to refer her to another waiting family, as this will take so long.
We feel like we have lost our child. Grief and tears have overcome us today. We feel despair, deeply sad, lost, angry, jealous of those who are bringing home their babies, empty, shocked, numb, and just feel like we've woken up from a nightmare to realize that THIS IS REAL.
Dawn's and my heart is breaking. We just don't understand this. Could we not just get one break? Why such hate and opposition to bringing our little girl home?
Just don't know what else to say, except to ask you to pray for us - we are both just sick and tired of being kicked in the teeth. We are tired of hearing that God's timing is perfect. We know He sees the big picture, and know He knows best, but it is not reassuring right now. We are wondering why God has taken us on this journey of pain.
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Oh, Jason and Dawn, we will certainly be praying that God floods you with His peace and wisdom during such a difficult situation. We're hugging you from the cold and snowy north!
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts and prayers are with you in this awful time.....we hope and pray that things can be resolved quickly if possible. I am not a big fan of the USCIS either....I spent every thursday morning for 4 weeks at their office trying to fight for Olivia to come home. It was a nightmare to say the least.
ReplyDeleteWords cannot express how sorry I am you are dealing with this and I am sure I do not have the words to magically take away your pain. Grief is how we deal and I pray that God's plan for your family and sweet Naomi is revealed very soon and that this mess is fixed. Praying for you and if there is anything I can do please ask.
ReplyDeleteBig Hugs and Prayers from the Big D Family!
ReplyDeleteI wrote a blog post while we were in Ghana (March 08) about everyone telling us it was "God's will" and "God's timing". No ... those words are NOT reassuring when you are in the midst of pain and trial. My take on it ... God's perfect will would be for these children to be in families. It is PEOPLE, not God, who make the decisions to deny this. God KNOWS what is best ... he also KNOWS what will be taking place every minute of every day. Yet, it is NOT always His perfect will. God's WILL would be for everyone to be loving and serving HIM ... but He KNOWS that His will is not always being carried out. He has given people (like USCIS workers) their own free will to make daily decisions (whether or not they are in God's perfect will.)
Praying for you today!
Laurel
I am so sorry to hear this. I thought of your family many times throughout Christmas and stopped and prayed for you. I will continue to pray.
ReplyDeleteAmy
Again, I am so so sorry! I thought that once you accepted a referral from Ethiopia that child could not be referred to another family, period. Maybe things have changed... you will all be in my prayers today.
ReplyDeleteI am SO sorry. I can't even imagine what you are going through. I am praying that God's will is done and that your family will be filled with His peace regardless of the outcome. I am also praying for Naomi.
ReplyDeleteOh no. It's not fair. I am so sorry. Praying for your family and for Naomi. Hugs from far away.
ReplyDeleteMy heart breaks for you. Life sucks. To have a heart and the means to bring another child in great need into your family, and be denied to do so by someone who has never even met you face to face.... it just sits wrong to put it lightly.
ReplyDeleteJust because Gods will and timing are perfect, doesn't mean our heart is always full of peace and joy in that statement! We are only human. And life jsut doesn't always turn out good to our knowledge. I think Gods heart is breaking too....
I am SO sorry! There are no words to help this situation.
My heart is breaking at your news. Praying for peace that passes all understanding, that can only come from above. And widsom in where to go from here.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry and can't imagine what you much be feeling. You will be in my prayers. My heart breaks for your family.
ReplyDeleteI am so so sorry for what you guys are going thru. I am praying :(
ReplyDeleteoh no. i'm so so sorry. my heart is breaking for you and naomi. i will be praying for you all.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss and pain. God bless you in all this.
ReplyDeleteSweet friend---I am terribly, terribly sorry to hear this sad news. God's timing---I hear you sister and brother in Christ---no fun hearing what you already KNOW...but I guess we don't always realize that God's timing some times HURTS:(! I'm so very sad and greiving with your family today. There is pain in the perfect I guess. Jesus was the only perfect man to walk this Earth---yet His time here was basked in pain. Hold tight to the man who understands a life of pain---and know that joy will come---I wish I knew when...but just hold tight to Jesus and know your family in Christ is praying for you.
ReplyDeleteWe are so so sorry. There truly are no words. Praying for you right now.
ReplyDeleteWe are praying for you, and crying with you.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Sarah
I am so sorry...
ReplyDeletewhy would the USCIS do this?!?! makes me SO angry.
ReplyDeleteThe more I thought about this the more confused I got! WHY would the USCIS deny an approved HS family? Isn't that the point of a HS, for someone to have first hand knowledge of a family???? It is crazy!
ReplyDeletePraying for your family, that they are comforted during this dark time. Praying for USCIS to realize their mistake and that someone says something to the right USCIS person about being raised by awesome parents and they wouldn't be who they are if they weren't adopted, and that family is better than bottom line dollar signs... praying the USCIS workers' hearts are moved by the Holy Spirit and that Naomi is home soon! Praying for peace. BIG hugs!
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Maria
I dont know what to say except how sorry I am. Can you say why the denial? I am stunned they would not let her come home...doesnt ethiopia have a policy that once you except a referral that child can not be referred to another family? they remain an orphan , i thought. Oh this is so sad ...I am praying for you and namomi that things work out very quickly.
ReplyDeleteNO!!!!! I'm so sorry!
ReplyDeleteIm sure you can fight it and find out WHY they are denying you. We received a denial on our first adoption and I was able to talk with someone at the USCIS office and we were able to straighten it all out. Maybe you can do the same?
Hugs to you and your family
Ugh! My heart is heavy for your and your sweet little family. All ouf our children have been brought home through the Ugandan governement, therefore, I am not aware of the US formalities for international adoption, how does the USCIS determine your are eligible? Also, asking t he Father to wrap His arms around Naomi, too. Love from Uganda. Summer
ReplyDeletei am so sorry. this doesn't make any sense. i know how you love that sweet naomi. i am praying for god to hold you close and give you hope.
ReplyDeleteJust saw your comment on you my blog..and I'm so thankful you are going to be reading through with me/us! I just have this picture of all us mommas walking through our year together...whatever that means...we will be clinging to HIS WORD and trusting in HIM...together!
ReplyDeleteMy heart is breaking for you. We will continue to pray fervently that the God of all comfort will provide healing and direction through this awful valley. He can change the hearts of kings...
ReplyDeleteLove,
David and Larisa
Dawn and Jason
ReplyDeleteI will offer a rosary prayer today for your family's intentions.
May God continue to shower your family with special blessings, peace and hope.
Lan
I am so sorry and am praying for you and your precious children!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to each of you! May you feel the prayers being lifted up in your and Naomi's behalf.
ReplyDeleteI am feeling just terrible about this. I will be lifting you up in prayer and praying for a miracle.
ReplyDeleteTonight I am praying for healing, hope, and comfort for your family. And for a miracle. My heart hurts for you as you struggle with feelings of helplessness, grief, frustration, anger, and everything else in between.
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